Just as you might find it hard to understand how people who are in marriages and long term relationships might be lonely, it’s also hard for them to really grasp how very lonely you might be: what it’s like:
… and in addition to these, you undoubtedly identify with many of the same loneliness problems that aren’t related to your relationship status.
If you are single and feeling lonely, you are not alone.
New Zealanders who are single (and not in a family nucleus) are much more likely to feel lonely than couples without any children. Whilst over two thirds (70.2%) of couples without children do not feel lonely any of the time, only half (49.3%) of singles (not in a family nucleus) feel the same way. Put another way, over half of singles (not in a family nucleus) feel lonely at least a little of the time.
The increased feelings of loneliness extend across all the different levels of loneliness – from being more lonely most/all of the time to being more lonely a little of the time. So, if you are single and feeling lonely we empathise with you.
These are very real issues for you;
and some are not quick fixes! So despite these challenges it’s vital you actively find ways to ensure that you – and those around you – are emotionally healthy.
Solitude is very important for people to reflect and to come to grips with their situation. Being lonely for short periods is also not necessarily unhealthy. What we are considering is the type of loneliness which is prolonged and might be damaging to an individual’s health and wellbeing. Some people talk about their loneliness; other’s don’t. Some might not recognise that they are actually suffering from loneliness.
When people are already lonely, having people around you that you aren’t able to connect with on a deeper level, might even make your loneliness worse.
Research has shown that when socially isolated people aren’t getting enough regular human contact that can create problems with their family members and people who they do end up talking to.
These are just the surface of the ways you might be showing signs of being lonely… and that you could recognise in others.
So where to from here?
you all have a unique story.
How long you have been lonely; What you believe causes your particular loneliness; and what you have already tried to alleviate the loneliness.
To get to the heart of your loneliness we would like to get to know you!
Your personality, your eccentricities, and your values are all part of what makes you feel your loneliness more than some others.
Your next step
We appreciate the trust you would place in us to talk openly and frankly – so we promise no judgements – genuine empathy, respect and confidentiality.
Then when we have understood you better, we can help you move forward. Help you form better connections with your spread out communities, with your friends and your families…wherever they are in the world.
If you are ready to take the next step, click the button to get started addressing your loneliness:
People feel lonely for many reasons. To learn more about other life stage and lonely categories, select one of the coloured boxes below, or scroll down the “I’m feeling lonely” menu.
With our help you can conquer your loneliness by taking better care of your inner self.
And we can conquer loneliness in New Zealand by better understanding and accepting each other.
So when you are ready…click here.
We look forward to hearing your view of the world!