Loneliness NZ

Alone and lonely

We are dismayed to know that you, or someone close to you, is alone and feels lonely. There are so many reasons that any one of us could be in a position to be alone… living so far away from our nearest neighbours… being imprisoned… stranded in a strange place literally with no-one you know around you.  And then there are times when we might even be living with others and yet we really feel lonely… that those friends, family and whānau that might still be around us just aren’t helping us feel less lonely.   We really are saddened to hear of circumstances where you are lonely and you have no choice but to remain physically isolated from others.    

Humans are strong and resilient in so many ways… and yet we can also be so fragile!  When we don’t deal with being alone well, we sometimes slump into loneliness, making our situation all the harder to deal with… especially without help. Sometimes even when we do have more people in our lives we still have thoughts which affect how we feel about ourselves, and how we interact with others… sometimes without realising, we further our own loneliness. 

Whatever your circumstance, we just want you to know that you’re not alone feeling like this… sadly there are many people like you who are actually alone and lonely, or feel alone and lonely.  

Our aim is to help get you to better understand yourself, others and the world you are in – to help you move from the very low loneliness you are in to a space where you feel more able to connect well with yourself, and other people.

We have written some pages on some aspects of being alone and lonely, for you to possibly identify with or learn more from.  We also appreciate that everyone’s situation is unique so if your cause of being alone and experiencing loneliness is not on one of these pages, or elsewhere in our “I’m feeling lonely” section of the website, we are still here for you.

So please look through these pages… and be in touch if you would like to consider further help from us, as an individual or as a group.

Navigating our website

People feel lonely for many reasons. To learn more about alone and lonely categories, select one of the coloured boxes below, or scroll down the “I’m feeling lonely” menu.