Loneliness NZ

Get started conquering your loneliness

If you haven’t already, we encourage your to explore the website to better understand your experiences of loneliness. This is a quick overview of how to start conquering your feelings of loneliness.  You can start by considering:

The ripple effect of you becoming less lonely is immense!

By getting yourself into a happier space, you will naturally start enabling others around you to be more relaxed and interactive with you. You will be enhancing the lives of others too.

You will be doing your part to conquer loneliness in New Zealand!

Connecting with people

The positives of being connected with others.

Whether it’s through friendships, family bonds, or other relationships, being connected has been shown to have positive effects on mental, emotional, and even physical health. Meaningful relationships are very important.

Every meaningful connection has its beginnings!

Take a moment to consider the people already in your life; revitalise those relationships that may have slipped by the wayside. And don’t forget to keep expanding your social circle.

Being realistic about connecting with others.

If you’re eager to connect with others socially, there are numerous avenues to explore. We’ve listed a few examples below to get you started.

Building friendships takes time and patience, both with yourself and with others, as you navigate your way into new social circles.

Our I’m Feeling Lonely section has resources you might find helpful.  

This resources section was initially written during the COVID period, and some of the articles still relate to bubbles and social distancing. Nonetheless, you will still find useful principles in these articles until we can update them to be more general.


Consider volunteering for organisations that resonate with you, joining local gyms or clubs that match your interests, exploring online meetup sites for events in your area, attending neighbourhood gatherings, getting involved in faith-based groups, and striking up conversations with your neighbours-whether its your regular bus ride neighbour or the one you live nearby.

We understand that many people are looking to join support groups to connect with others who are also experiencing prolonged loneliness. While there isn’t conclusive evidence to suggest that individuals can effectively support each other to overcome loneliness without a professional leading the group, the suggestions in this section provide alternative avenues to explore.

These suggestions offer practical ways to meet new people and start feeling connected without the sole focus on loneliness.

While we’re unable to directly connect individuals with groups, we encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and consider these options to discover meaningful connections

These connections provide a sense of belonging, support, and understanding, which can contribute to overall wellbeing. Research indicates that people with strong social connections tend to experience lower levels of stress, depression, and anxiety, and they often report higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction.

Furthermore, deep connections can offer opportunities for personal growth, empathy, and a sense of purpose. Engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing experiences, and feeling truly understood and valued by others can enrich our lives in profound ways.

So, simply being connected is good, and having meaningful connections that foster a sense of belonging and support can greatly enhance your well-being.

If you’re feeling hesitant about giving our suggestions a try, or if you’ve already attempted them without much success, and you’re still grappling with feelings of loneliness and isolation, please know that we’re here for you.

Consider individual counselling as a valuable step towards finding relief and forging deeper connections with others. Take a moment to discover more about our counsellors and counselling services, by clicking here.

Connecting with yourself

Embracing Solitude

Feeling connected to yourself when you are alone is beneficial for both introverts and extroverts. We outline what solitude is and its significant benefits in our section Let’s Prevent Loneliness under Loneliness terms.

Embracing solitude can be a wonderful journey, offering countless avenues to enrich your life. From finding solace in nature’s whispers to immersing yourself in creative pursuits or simply relishing quiet moments of introspection, there are myriad paths to welcome and integrate solitude into your daily existence.

Solitude looks different for everyone

It’s essential to find what works best for you and follow whatever makes you feel fulfilled and rejuvenated.

While embracing solitude can bring about numerous benefits, it’s also important to find a balance between time alone and social connections to nurture your overall well-being.

Set aside specific periods in your schedule for solitude, whether it’s a few minutes each day or a longer block of time each week. Pursue hobbies and interests that you can enjoy alone, such as reading, writing, painting, hiking, or practicing mindfulness. 

Take breaks from screens and digital devices to disconnect from constant stimulation and create space for quiet reflection. Take solitary walks in nature or explore your surroundings alone, allowing yourself to soak in the beauty of the environment and clear your mind. 

Spend time in quiet contemplation through meditation or mindfulness practices to cultivate inner peace and awareness. Set aside time to journal your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, allowing yourself to express yourself freely without judgment. 

Embark on solo adventures or day trips to explore new places and cultures at your own pace, embracing the freedom and self-discovery that solo travel offers.  Dine alone (even out occasionally), savouring the experience of enjoying a meal without distractions and fully engaging your senses. 

Designate a quiet space in your home, or seek out retreat centers where you can retreat from the hustle and bustle of daily life to recharge and reflect. Embrace moments of solitude that naturally arise throughout your day, whether during your morning coffee, while waiting in line, or before bed.

Feeling alone is a natural part of being human, but when that solitude starts to feel heavy, it can become overwhelming. Recognising when solitude transitions into loneliness or withdrawal is crucial. There’s no shame in seeking connection again when solitude becomes isolating.

If you find yourself wrestling with loneliness, even in moments of solitude, or notice yourself emotionally withdrawing from others, it’s essential to acknowledge these feelings. If your usual ways of connecting with people aren’t working, see our section above on connecting with others.

An option available to you is to seek individual counselling, which could be a valuable step towards understanding and addressing your emotions, helping you thrive in your future endeavours.  Feel free to explore information about our compassionate counsellors and counselling services by clicking here. We’re here to support you on your journey to a fulfilling and balanced life.

Getting help through counselling

Our counsellors are here to help you

We understand that reaching out for help can be a daunting step, and so our counselling services are designed to provide you with the support and guidance you need to navigate through your feelings of loneliness. When you’re ready, please fill out the form to explore counselling sessions with us. You can find more details about what you can expect from our service here

What to expect next

After pressing send, wait for us to get in touch to start the process of contacting you and setting up sessions. Thank you for taking this step! We look forward to helping you taking this step in your journey.